3/28/2013
Pole Dancing is Not for P*ssies
Okay, so literally it is. But figuratively speaking, pole dancing is not for p*ssies. Let me tell you my experience.
Thanks to Groupon, I decided to explore my sensual side and try some pole dancing classes. A dancer once told me it's the best workout for abs and arms, and she had some killer arms. So I wasn't going to contest. But the closest I've come to trying pole dancing was one time in college when a few of my girlfriends and I did some of the Carmen Elektra DVDs at home. I think it was chair dancing. It wasn't much of a workout from what I remember.
So my friend Heather and I, who is much more adept as she is a few classes ahead of me, decided to try out this groupon for a bargain on 3 pole dancing classes. The teacher makes every move look like the most graceful and easiest move you'll ever do. But then when I get on the pole it's quite the juxtaposition. I know I most likely resemble Kristen Wiig doing an SNL skit. Or Molly Shannon. Either one. It would be a really great skit.
Pole dancing is the most brutal sport I have ever participated in. You wake up the next day with bruises in places that make it look like you've been raped. I'm sorry, that is really graphic, but it's the truth. The girls who do it professionally better be making good money.
Overall, it is a fantastic workout. It works the entire body so that you see results within two sessions, but you have to weigh your options. Is being bruised and battered worth it for something that I'm paying to do??? No.
Moral of the story: I'm going back to yoga.
3/27/2013
Freedom is Learning to Let Go
My concept of freedom has expanded over the past year. I
used to think of freedom as something provided by an outside source. For example,
the United States provides us freedom under the constitution. I saw freedom as
a right.
It is a right. But what I didn’t realize is the power I
hold. Instead of looking outside of myself for the permission to be free, I now
give myself that permission.
Freedom to me is not being attached to any person,
substance, object, ect. It is freeing my mind from obsession over the past, the
present, and future.
My freedom has come from letting go of control. I’ve stopped
outlining how I think a situation should go. Outlining is when you want a
certain outcome in a situation so you try and will it into existence. But by doing
so it makes everyone in the situation, including yourself, miserable because there’s
no room to breathe!
I’ve learned that to get what you want you have to be
willing to lose it. If you’re not open to that possibility then you will cling
too tightly to it and depend on it.
When I’m at my best, I look at things from a detached
perspective. Once I’ve done my part in a relationship (friendship, romantic, or
family) I have to let it go and let the chips fall where they may.
The best relationships bring out our shadow side, forcing us
to deal with our shit. We’ll meet certain people throughout our lives who act
as mirrors to show us what we don’t want to see. If you’re not willing to see your
dark side, then most likely you’ll run away from the relationship, but if you
choose to show up then you can work through it and deal with your demons. We
all have them, and they certainly don’t go away by ignoring them. They’ll only
get louder and louDER and LOUDER until you hit your bottom.
We all have a bottom. My bottom was an accumulation of
losing a friendship that was extremely important to me, finding myself in a
repeat situation with a romantic relationship…and both of these situations were
screaming at me and urging me to let go of a false belief I held.
Most of us have negative beliefs in our heads that replay
over and over and over. And we act them out over and over and over. For example,
maybe your father wasn’t emotionally available to you as a child, so you
internalized the belief “I’m not loveable”. That belief stays with you and then
manifests in your life as you become an adult; usually in your closest
relationships.
The good news is you can undo these false beliefs. The
biggest and first step is recognizing your false beliefs. This is the part that
I would recommend therapy for. Although, when I went through this last year, I
did it myself because I was pretty broke at the time so I didn’t see therapy as
an option. I read books that asked the right questions so that I was able to
uncover some of my false beliefs and realize where they originated from. However,
I recommend therapy because the process will probably be much faster and
therapy really is an investment in yourself and many people (especially
LCSW-licensed clinical social workers) operate on a sliding scale so you can
afford it! I am finally going to therapy and intend to keep up with it on a regular
basis. I’m doing it for myself, and also for my clients because having my shit
together will make me a better therapist.
Point being, I encourage you to do what you need to do to
find out if you have false beliefs that you’re carting around. Once you discover false beliefs you realize
how they have so much power and how they are coloring your perspective. And
once you recognize them, you can take the steps to letting them go. And letting
them go leads to your own freedom!
That’s probably a lot to digest so I’ll leave it at that for
now. Happy healing!
3/10/2013
Love for TSwift
This is a quote from Taylor Swift that I came across from a recent magazine interview, and I think it's right on.
“For a female to write about her feelings, and then be portrayed as some clingy, insane, desperate girlfriend in need of making you marry her and have kids with her, I think that’s taking something that potentially should be celebrated—a woman writing about her feelings in a confessional way—that’s taking it and turning it and twisting it into something that is frankly a little sexist.”
“For a female to write about her feelings, and then be portrayed as some clingy, insane, desperate girlfriend in need of making you marry her and have kids with her, I think that’s taking something that potentially should be celebrated—a woman writing about her feelings in a confessional way—that’s taking it and turning it and twisting it into something that is frankly a little sexist.”
3/07/2013
Quote to Remember
There is neither happiness nor unhappiness in this world; there is only
the comparison of one state with another. Only someone who has felt
ultimate despair is capable of feeling ultimate bliss. It is necessary
to have wished for death in order to know how good it is to live.” – The
Count of Monte Cristo by Alexandre Dumas
This quote is true for me, but I do hope that the last line is not true for everyone. Do you think that it is necessary to have wished for death in order to know how good it is to live?
This quote is true for me, but I do hope that the last line is not true for everyone. Do you think that it is necessary to have wished for death in order to know how good it is to live?
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